Oh Man, you can cry!

“Be a big boy!”, “You’re tough!”, “You don’t need to cry!”, “You’re OK!”

Are you?

We live in a new era where artificial intelligence is able to communicate, we can check emails on our watch, and so much more! Every day new inventions come to light, demonstrating the infinite potential of human beings as well as the natural desire to evolve.

However, I still see men, guys, and young boys struggling to feel free to be, to express, to be sensitive, to be tender, to cry. How many women have felt uncomfortable to see a man cry in front of them? I did, many years ago.

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Now when I witness an open heart and glassy eyes, I feel deeply grateful and touched. I see and feel the beauty of being human! I see millions of past generations of men healing with these tears! I feel safe and able to be and let others do the same. I feel honored to witness a profound transformation.

One of my clients, in our first session, said “I’m not able to cry. I’m never going to do it, so just you know.” But with time, practice, and patience, he was able to break down the barriers and finally express his emotions freely

This week, I want to offer some practical exercises for men to help them express their emotions more authentically:

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Exercise 1
Emotion Diary:

Take a few minutes each day to write down how you’re feeling. Use descriptive language to help you connect with your emotions, and be honest with yourself. Writing down your emotions can help you identify patterns and triggers, making it easier to express yourself in the future.

Exercise 2
Body Scan:

Take a few minutes to scan your body for physical sensations. Pay attention to any tension, discomfort, or relaxation. This exercise can help you connect with your emotions on a physical level, making it easier to express them verbally.

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Exercise 3
Active Listening Practice:

Practice active listening with a friend or family member. Ask them to share something that’s been on their mind, and listen attentively without interrupting or offering advice. After they’re finished, summarize what they’ve said and ask clarifying questions. This exercise can help you develop your listening skills, making it easier to communicate your own emotions effectively.

Exercise 4
Emotional Check-Ins:

Schedule regular emotional check-ins with yourself or a trusted friend. Use this time to discuss how you’re feeling, and be open and honest about your emotions. Regular check-ins can help you stay connected with your emotions, making it easier to express them authentically.

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kid with sand

Exercise 5
Creative Expression:

Use creative expression as a way to connect with your emotions. This could be through art, music, dance, or any other form of creative expression that resonates with you. Allow yourself to explore your emotions without judgment or criticism, and let your creativity be a vehicle for self-expression.

In conclusion, these practical exercises can help you connect with your emotions and express yourself authentically. By incorporating these exercises into your daily routine, you can start to develop the skills needed to communicate your emotions effectively and develop deeper connections with others. Remember, expressing your emotions is a sign of strength, not weakness.

 

So go ahead, Oh Man, you can cry!

 

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“Vulnerability is the core, the heart, the center of meaningful human experiences.”

Brenè Brown

Your unique and powerful unconscious, your inner child will deeply
smile with their heart!

 Let’s explore this journey

Step by step

Let’s gently open our heart

Take care of your Moonchild

With Love and Care Lucia

Brown, B. (n.d.). Vulnerability is the core, the heart, the center of meaningful human experiences. [Quote]. Retrieved April 8, 2023, from https://brenebrown.com/quotes/